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Self Care Newsletter Vol#87 Week #4 "Feelings are just visitors. Let them come and go." Mooji
Published about 1 hour ago • 10 min read
Rejuvenate & Thrive
NURTURE YOUR ESSENCE
Focus:
"Your Emotions Are Messengers, Not Problems"
"Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways."
Sigmund Freud
Your Weekly
Intentional & Sustainable Self-Care Newsletter
Volume #87
"Your Emotions Are Messengers, Not Problems"
What is your relationship with your emotions? Is it avoidance, positivity, or suppression? Are you ready to connect with your emotions in a way where they don't control you, but instead give your nervous system the gift to flow, relax, and breathe without constraints?
Our emotions are the element of water. Like a chameleon, they take up space in whatever container holds them. But I've learned that water is fluid, memory, and flowing through our body, mind, and spirit. However, when it becomes stagnant in our experiences, we experience anger, anxiety, overwhelm, and numbness. These heavy emotions are not malfunctions. They are the delivery system for your inner wisdom. Your feelings are messengers, not problems.
My emotional relationship began with positivity and the urge to fix. I didn't know how to deal with feelings, so I would flip, numb myself, or fix them before allowing myself to feel anything. I had conditioned myself to believe that heavy emotions would hurt too much. The fear of those emotions kept me in my head, fueling my people-pleasing tendencies and nearly causing a nervous breakdown. We live in a culture that treats anger like a liability, sadness like a weakness, anxiety like a glitch, and grief like an inconvenience. We rush to suppress our emotions, spiritualize them away ("Everything happens for a reason!"), or fix them the second they bubble up.
But as your strategist, I'm here to tell you that emotions are not errors in your programming—they are precise, intelligent data packets sent from your deepest self. Stillness is not another task to complete on your endless checklist; it is the sacred container where you finally give your emotions room to speak without editing. Today, we stop treating our feelings like fires to be put out and start treating them like guests with a message.
Chakra Activation: Heart (Anahata) Emotional Space To hold space for our emotions without judgment, we must anchor into the center of compassion. The Heart Chakra, located right at the center of your chest, is the seat of unconditional acceptance and emotional integration.
The Physical Anchor: Sit upright, drop your shoulders, and place your right hand flat over the center of your chest. Feel the steady rhythm of your heartbeat beneath your palm.
The Visualization: Imagine a warm, glowing emerald-green light expanding behind your hand, creating a vast, safe, open room in your chest that can hold whatever you are feeling right now without breaking.
The Breath: Inhale slowly for four counts, drawing breath straight into your heart space. Exhale for six counts, whispering internally: "I am allowed to feel this."
The Affirmation: Whisper or think: "My emotions are welcome guests. I do not need to fix them."
The Seal: Gently press your hand to your chest, locking in this emotional sanctuary.
The Strategist's View: As a strategist, I look at emotional suppression as intercepting the mail. Strategic shifts for this beautiful rising:
The Four Traps of Emotional Management:
Judging: "I shouldn't feel this way; I'm too evolved for this." (Shame blocks the message.)
Suppressing: "Push it down, keep working, ignore the storm." (Suppressed energy always erupts later.)
Spiritualizing: "Everything is a lesson, I'm just high-vibe!" (Using spiritual bypassing to avoid raw human pain.)
Fixing: "Quick, how do I change this mood right now?" (Treating a messenger like an intruder.)
Stillness as Presence, Not Performance: Remember, stillness is not another task to complete. You don't sit in silence to "clear" your emotions; you sit in stillness to let them move through you without interference.
The Translation of Energy: Anger tells you where a boundary has been crossed. Sadness tells you what you loved and lost. Fear tells you where you need protection or preparation. When you stop fighting the emotion, you receive the wisdom.
The "Message Delivery" Protocol: Let's decode what your emotions are trying to tell you. Grab your phone or a notebook.
Name the Guest: Identify the primary emotion you've been trying to push away or manage lately (e.g., resentment, grief, overwhelm, anxiety).
Drop the Judgment: Write down: "I feel [Emotion], and it makes complete sense that I feel this way because..." (Give your emotion a valid reason to exist).
Read the Mail: Ask the emotion directly: "What boundary do you want me to set? What truth do you want me to see?" Write down its answer.
The Commitment: Write: "I will listen to my emotions instead of silencing them."
The Integration Protocol: True emotional integration requires a pause before reaction. Before you attempt to act on an emotional wave or try to change your internal state, integrate the experience through these three phases:
Tap into Awareness: Bring your focus completely into your physical and emotional body right now. Notice where an emotion is resting or moving. Acknowledge its presence without trying to analyze, grade, or dismiss it.
Sense It and Sit With It: Do not rush to fix the mood, cheer yourself up, or figure out the solution. Sit right in the middle of the emotional weather. Let your nervous system experience the profound safety of feeling an emotion from start to finish without panicking.
Allowing and Receiving: Stop forcing your feelings to behave. Open your hands, drop your shoulders, and simply allow the emotion to exist in its full integrity. Receive the exact message, boundary, or truth it delivered before you ever try to give birth to a new action, a new boundary, or a new decision.
Food for Thought: If you treated every heavy, uncomfortable emotion not as a personal failure or a glitch in your wellness journey, but as a loyal courier delivering a vital letter from your soul, how differently would you treat yourself when you hurt?
Wisdom Insight: Your emotions are not problems to be solved; they are messengers asking to be heard. This day, stop trying to fix your feelings and start letting them teach you.
Be Blissful,
Dr. MoJo: Self-Care Strategist
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What if the feeling you have been trying to outrun, suppress, talk yourself out of, or spiritualize into something more acceptable—was never the problem? What if that anger, that grief, that fear, that loneliness was not a sign that something is wrong with you, but a sign that something important is happening inside you that deserves your honest, unhurried attention?
This week, we stop treating our emotions like problems to be solved and start receiving them as the messengers they have always been—intelligent, purposeful, and carrying information your life genuinely needs.
You do not have to fix what you feel.
You just have to be willing to hear it.
Food For Thought:
Nourishment for Your Soul:
"Your Emotions Are Messengers, Not Problems"
Every emotion you have ever felt arrived with a purpose. Anger signals a boundary that has been crossed or a value that has been violated. Grief signals love—the depth of what was lost is always proportional to the depth of what was loved. Fear signals the presence of something that feels threatening, and asks you to pay attention. Loneliness signals the need for genuine connection. Guilt asks whether your actions aligned with your values. Joy points directly at what is most alive in you.
None of these are problems. All of them are information. But most of us were taught—in childhood, in culture, in the countless messages we received about which emotions were acceptable and which were too much—to respond to our feelings not with curiosity but with management: suppress the uncomfortable ones, perform the acceptable ones, and get back to functioning as quickly as possible.
What Emotions Actually Need
Emotions need three things: to be named, to be felt, and to be witnessed without judgment. Naming gives the emotion shape—it moves the experience from overwhelming to workable. Feeling means allowing the physical reality of the emotion to be present in the body rather than overriding it with thought. Witnessing means observing the emotion with compassion rather than criticism—bringing the quality of a caring presence to your own inner experience. These three things, offered consistently, are techniques designed to change or eliminate what you feel.
A Reflection to Carry with You
What emotion have you been managing, suppressing, or spiritualizing rather than genuinely feeling? What might it be trying to tell you, if you gave it just five minutes of your honest, non-judgmental attention?
Let that question be enough for now. The answer will come if you let yourself be still enough to hear it.
"The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it."
Nicholas Sparks
"Emotions are the capstone of human experience, representing data from our subconscious.""
Carl Jung
WISDOM FROM SPIRITUAL MOTHERS & FATHERS
Louise Hay:
"Every feeling I have is valid. I love and accept myself even when I feel anger, grief, fear, or sadness. My emotions are part of my wholeness, not evidence of my brokenness."
Maya Angelou:
"I don’t trust people who don’t cry. Tears are the body’s way of releasing what the heart cannot hold alone. Feel everything. It is how we stay human."
Queen Afua:
"Emotions are the language of the womb, the language of the body. When a woman learns to honor her feeling world without shame, she reclaims a power that nothing outside of her can give or take away."
Iyanla Vanzant:
"You cannot heal what you refuse to feel. You cannot change what you will not acknowledge. Your emotions are not your enemy. They are the doorway."
Closing: Heart-to-Heart
Dearest one, your emotions were never the problem. They were always the message. And every time you honor what you feel—without judgment, without the rush to fix it or reframe it into something more acceptable—you give yourself one of the most profound gifts available: the experience of being genuinely known by yourself.
Feel it all. Name it honestly. Let it move. That is the practice. That is the healing. And you are already doing it.
You are exactly where you need to be, and everything you feel is valid, purposeful, and worthy of your deepest compassion.
With deep respect for your feeling world,
Your Self-Care Strategist 💕
P.S. Sweet soul, if this week brought up emotions that felt bigger or older than the moment seemed to warrant—please know that is not a sign you are broken. That is a sign the message has been waiting a long time to be received. Old emotions, held back for years, do not knock quietly. Be gentle with yourself. You do not have to process everything at once. You just have to be willing to begin. One named feeling at a time. One honest acknowledgment at a time. One moment of saying “I feel this, and it is okay that I feel this” at a time. That is enough. That is everything. And it is more than you may realize.
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
Rumi
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Annually: $240/year
Call-to-Action: "Don’t wait to start your journey. Click below to join Ignite Your Inner You Community!!!
"Your Healthy MoJo~Self-Care Strategist: The Chakra Series."This essential collection, created by Dr. MoJo, guides you through a profound journey of self-discovery and energetic alignment, spanning from the grounding Earth Star and Root to the divine connection of the Crown Chakra.
Each of the eight energy centers (Earth Star, Root, Sacral, Solar Plexus, Heart, Throat, Third Eye, and Crown) is addressed with its own dedicated, transformative recording paired with an in-depth eBook to solidify your understanding and practice. Individually, each Chakra recording and eBook bundle is available for $25.00, offering a powerful, focused self-care strategy.
However, when you purchase two or more Chakra bundles, the price drops to just $20.00 each. Start your personalized healing journey today and feel the difference of a balanced, vibrant self.
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