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Self Care Newsletter Vol#69 Vol#70 Week #4 "As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Published about 12 hours ago • 8 min read
Rejuvenate & Thrive
NURTURE YOUR ESSENCE
Focus:
Becoming Someone YOU Trust
"Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do."
Benjamin Spock
Your Weekly
Intentional & Sustainable Self-Care Newsletter
Volume #70
Becoming Someone YOU Trust
"For a long time, I was the person everyone could count on — and I was completely unavailable to myself."
I spent years pouring into relationships, showing up for everyone, and making sure no one around me felt unseen. It looked like love. It looked like generosity. But underneath all of that giving was a quiet truth I wasn't ready to face: I had no idea who I was — and I didn't want to find out.
The search for external validation wasn't just a habit — it was a hiding place. Being accepted by others felt safer than sitting with myself, because sitting with myself meant confronting the inner turmoil I didn't know how to hold. So I kept doing. Kept giving. Kept being everything to everyone else, secretly hoping all those good deeds would quiet the noise inside me.
They didn't.
I kept so much inside — grief I hadn't named, pain I hadn't processed, a self-worth I had quietly abandoned — until my body and spirit sent me a warning I couldn't ignore. I was on the edge of a breakdown. Depleted. Disconnected. And somewhere in the weight of it all, I had lost my integrity with the one person who needed me most: me.
And then something shifted. Not all at once — but with one clear, undeniable realization:
The most important relationship I will ever have is the one I have with myself.
Not the one with my mother, my spouse, my friends, or anyone waiting for me to show up for them. The one I had been neglecting while I perfected showing up everywhere else.
If any part of this lands in your chest — if you recognize yourself in the doing, the giving, the hiding — then you're in the right place. Then it is time to STOP, not pause.
Many of us are waiting — for permission, for someone to rescue us, for the moment we finally "feel ready." But as your strategist, I want to offer you a different truth: your greatest asset is the unwavering belief that you will do what you say you will do.
We begin to mend that bridge. We begin to become someone we trust.
Chakra Activation: Heart (Anahata) Alignment Self-trust starts when your words and your heart are in the same room. The Heart Chakra is the bridge between your intentions and your actions.
The Physical Anchor: Place your right hand over your heart center.
The Visualization: Imagine a soft, emerald-green light glowing beneath your palm. This light represents your word—your honor.
The Breath: Inhale for four counts, imagining you are breathing life into your intentions. As you exhale for four counts, imagine you are "locking" that intention into your physical body.
The Affirmation: Whisper or think: "My word is my bond, and my bond to myself is sacred."
The Seal: Gently press your hand into your heart and keep it there for a moment of quiet solidarity with yourself.
The Strategist's View: As a strategist, I look at self-trust as internal capital.
The Micro-Commitment Rule: We try to "trust" ourselves by setting massive, impossible goals. That's a setup for failure. Build trust by keeping tiny promises. If you say you'll drink one glass of water, do it. If you say you'll stretch for 60 seconds, do it. Small wins build the bank.
The "No" Consistency: Trust isn't just doing what you say you will do; it's also doing what you say you won't do. If you tell yourself you won't check email after 8:00 PM, keep that promise.
The Integrity Audit: Every time you break a promise to yourself, you lose a little bit of your "internal signal." You feel shakier. Start small to sharpen your signal.
The "Integrity Contract":
The Smallest Promise: Identify one commitment that you can keep for the next 24 hours. Keep it small, keep it achievable.
The Why: Write down why you are making this promise to yourself (e.g., "Because my health is my priority").
The Evidence Log: Create a simple chart: "Promise" | "Completed?" | "How did I feel?" (Mark it off as you do it).
The Commitment: Write: "I am the person who does what I say I will do."
Food for Thought: If you treated your best friend the way you treat yourself—breaking your word, disregarding their boundaries, making promises you don't keep—would you still be friends? Why is the relationship with yourself the only one you feel safe neglecting?
Wisdom Insight: Self-trust is not a feeling; it is a discipline. You do not wait to "feel" like you can trust yourself; you act in a way that makes you trustworthy. This day, start building the person you can rely on.
Be Blissful,
Dr. MoJo: Self-Care Strategist
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"Your Healthy MoJo~Self-Care Strategist: The Chakra Series."
This essential collection, created by Dr. MoJo, guides you through a profound journey of self-discovery and energetic alignment, spanning from the grounding Earth Star and Root to the divine connection of the Crown Chakra.
Each of the eight energy centers (Earth Star, Root, Sacral, Solar Plexus, Heart, Throat, Third Eye, and Crown) is addressed with its own dedicated, transformative recording paired with an in-depth eBook to solidify your understanding and practice.
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Welcome to this sacred space where we build the foundation of all growth—trust in yourself. This week, we're exploring what it means to become someone you trust—to keep promises to yourself, honor your own knowing, follow through on commitments, believe in your capacity, and develop the kind of self-trust that becomes your most reliable resource. You are becoming someone you can count on.
Food For Thought:
Nourishment for Your Soul: Building Your Own Foundation
If you were in a relationship with someone who constantly broke promises to you, dismissed your feelings, ignored your needs, and abandoned you when things got hard, would you trust them? Would you feel safe with them? Would you rely on them? Of course not. Now ask yourself: Is that how you treat yourself?
Consider this: Self-trust isn't something you're born with or without—it's something you build through consistent action. Every time you keep a promise to yourself, you make a deposit. Every time you break one, you make a withdrawal. Your current level of self-trust is simply the balance of that account. The good news? You can start making deposits today.
Honoring Your Reliability: The Foundation of Self-Trust
There's a relationship that matters more than any other in your life, yet it's the one we most often neglect: your relationship with yourself. We focus on being trustworthy to others—keeping our word, showing up, following through—but when it comes to ourselves, we break promises daily. We say we'll rest but push through exhaustion. We commit to boundaries but abandon them when tested. We know what we need but override it for others' comfort. We sense something's wrong but dismiss our own intuition. We make plans for self-care but cancel on ourselves first.
Becoming someone you trust means: keeping small promises to yourself consistently, honoring your commitments to your own well-being, trusting your intuition even when others disagree, following through on what you say you'll do for yourself, believing in your capacity to handle what comes, choosing yourself even when it's uncomfortable, and building evidence through action that you are reliable, capable, and worthy of your own trust.
This week, we honor your journey toward unshakeable self-trust and celebrate every promise kept, every commitment honored, and every moment you prove to yourself that you are someone you can count on.
"Self-trust is the first secret of success."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Sometimes trusting yourself means forgiving the version of you who didn't know how."
Vicki Baird
WISDOM FROM SPIRITUAL MOTHERS & FATHERS
Louise Hay:
"I trust the process of life. I am safe."
Maya Angelou:
"Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it."
Iyanla Vanzant:
"You have the right to set boundaries. You have the right to enforce them."
Closing: Heart-to-Heart
Dearest one, remember that becoming someone you trust is the foundation of everything else you want to create. Just as you can't build a house on unstable ground, you can't build authentic confidence, healthy boundaries, or aligned decisions on a foundation of self-mistrust. Every promise you keep to yourself strengthens that foundation.
With celebration of your becoming,
Your Self-Care Strategist 💕
P.S. Sweet soul, if you're reading this realizing you've broken more promises to yourself than you've kept, please breathe into your tender heart. This isn't about shame—it's about awareness. You can't change what you don't acknowledge. The fact that you're realizing this pattern means you're ready to shift it. Start today. Not with grand commitments you might break, but with one tiny promise: "Today, I will drink one glass of water" or "Today, I will take three deep breaths" or "Today, I will be in bed by midnight." Make it so small you cannot fail. Then keep it. Tomorrow, keep another small promise. Then another. Build your self-trust one tiny kept promise at a time. You don't need to transform overnight. You just need to prove to yourself, slowly and consistently, that you are someone who shows up for you. That's how self-trust is built—not through perfection, but through consistent, imperfect follow-through. Start now. You've got this.
"The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself."
Diane Von Furstenberg
Join Ignite Your Inner YOU Community where it starts and ends with you BECOMING Intentionally YOU! It's time to start BETTING ON YOU!
Pricing Options:
Monthly: $20/month
Quarterly: $60/quarter
Annually: $240/year
Call-to-Action: "Don’t wait to start your journey. Click below to join Ignite Your Inner You Community!!!
"Your Healthy MoJo~Self-Care Strategist: The Chakra Series."This essential collection, created by Dr. MoJo, guides you through a profound journey of self-discovery and energetic alignment, spanning from the grounding Earth Star and Root to the divine connection of the Crown Chakra.
Each of the eight energy centers (Earth Star, Root, Sacral, Solar Plexus, Heart, Throat, Third Eye, and Crown) is addressed with its own dedicated, transformative recording paired with an in-depth eBook to solidify your understanding and practice. Individually, each Chakra recording and eBook bundle is available for $25.00, offering a powerful, focused self-care strategy.
However, when you purchase two or more Chakra bundles, the price drops to just $20.00 each. Start your personalized healing journey today and feel the difference of a balanced, vibrant self.
Subscribe to the Intentional Self-Care newsletter and join a community of women ready to reclaim their well-being. Expect inspiring insights, actionable tips, affirmations, and transformative self-care wisdom designed to uplift, empower, and nurture your heart and soul each day.
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