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Self Care Newsletter Vol#58 Week #1 "The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are." Carl Jung
Published 13 days ago • 7 min read
Rejuvenate & Thrive
NURTURE YOUR ESSENCE
Focus:
It's Okay Not To Be Understood
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
Bernard M. Baruch
Your Weekly
Intentional & Sustainable Self-Care Newsletter
Volume #58
It's Okay Not To Be Understood
"Most of my stress came from trying to correct other people's perception of me. I had to learn that my inner peace is worth more than someone else's approval in my life. It was liberating to understand the importance of letting go of the need to explain and embrace the power of being a mystery.
I was conditioned to believe that if I wasn't understood, I wasn't safe or loved. But I've realized that being understood is a luxury, while being authentic is a necessity. If I wait for everyone to "get" my vision before I act on it, I'll be waiting forever. It's about reclaiming the energy wasted on over-explaining. It's about realizing that your truth doesn't require a majority vote.
Let's activate the Solar Plexus (Manipura) for authority. To be okay with being misunderstood, we must strengthen our internal "sun." The Solar Plexus Chakra is our center of identity, willpower, and self-validation. When this is strong, we don't need the world to agree with us. It is the third chakra, its color is yellow, and its mantra is "Ram." If balanced, you feel energy, strength, confidence, strong will, and mental balance. If unbalanced, you feel guilty, lack energy, experience weakness, low self-esteem, worthlessness, and may have digestion and liver problems.
Place your right hand over your upper abdomen (above the navel) and your left hand over the right. Imagine a glowing, golden yellow sun right under your palms. This sun is your private truth. It doesn't need external oxygen to burn; it is self-sustaining. Inhale deeply, feeling the warmth of that sun. As you exhale, imagine a golden shield forming around your energy field. Whisper or think: "I am the only one who needs to understand my path. I am anchored in my own truth." Press your hands firmly into your stomach, feeling your own solid presence.
As a strategist, I look at over-explaining as a resource leak. If you spend 40% of your day trying to make sure people "understand" your choices, you only have 60% left to actually live them. Here are some strategic shifts: (1) The efficiency of silence—you are not a courtroom lawyer. You do not have to "prove" your life. Silence isn't just golden; it's a strategic conservation of energy. (2) The 50/50 rule—accept that in any given room, 50% of people will "get" you and 50% won't, and that has nothing to do with your value. It's about their own filters. (3) The "return to sender" policy—when someone misunderstands you, notice the urge to "fix" it. Instead, take a breath and say to yourself: "Their perception is their property. I don't have to live in it."
Lastly, practice the art of letting it be: (1) Identify the "misunderstander"—write down the name of one person whose opinion you are currently trying to "manage." (2) Write the final closing statement—what you wish they understood (e.g., "I wish they knew I'm not being lazy, I'm resting"). (3) Practice the strategic release—now, cross that sentence out. Underneath it, write: "It is okay that they don't see it. I see it." (4) Use the power phrase—practice saying this out loud for the next time they challenge you: "I'm comfortable with you not agreeing with my decision."
You've done the brave work of stepping out of the spotlight of public opinion. Remember: a lighthouse doesn't run all over the island looking for boats to "understand" its light. It just stands there and shines. Be the lighthouse in your life."
Be Blissful,
Dr. MoJo: Self-Care Strategist
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Welcome to this sacred space where your truth matters more than others' understanding of it. This week, we're exploring the liberating practice of accepting that not everyone will understand you—your choices, your journey, your values, or your path—and discovering that this is not only okay, it's necessary for authentic living. You don't need everyone to understand you to live your truth.
Food For Thought:
Nourishment for Your Soul: Trusting Yourself Above All
How many times have you abandoned what felt right for you because you couldn't make someone else understand why it was right? How often have you delayed, doubted, or dismissed your inner knowing because others questioned it? How much energy have you spent trying to translate your soul's language into terms that others could accept?
Consider this: A caterpillar entering a chrysalis makes no sense to those watching from outside. It looks like death, like giving up on being a perfectly functional caterpillar. But the caterpillar isn't waiting for external understanding—it's following internal knowing. Your transformation doesn't need to make sense to anyone but you.
The Freedom
of
Being Misunderstood
There's an exhausting burden many women carry: the belief that we must make everyone understand our choices, validate our decisions, and approve of our path. We over-explain, justify, defend, and contort ourselves trying to get others to see things from our perspective. We delay important decisions until we can gain consensus. We abandon our truth when others don't understand it. We live small because living authentically might confuse or disappoint people.
But here's the liberating truth: Not everyone will understand you, and that's perfectly okay. Not everyone will get why you left the relationship, took the job, moved cities, set the boundary, pursued the dream, or chose differently than they would. Some people will judge, question, criticize, or simply not comprehend your choices. And you get to be okay with that because their understanding is not required for your truth to be valid.
"I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet."
Mahatma Gandhi
Rising In Your Understanding of YOU
WISDOM FROM SPIRITUAL MOTHERS & FATHERS
Louise Hay:
"I trust the process of life. I am safe."
Maya Angelou:
"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them."
Iyanla Vanzant:
"Comparison is an act of violence against the self."
Closing: Heart-to-Heart
Dearest one, remember that living authentically means accepting that not everyone will understand your journey, and this is not a failure on your part. Just as a fish cannot explain water to a bird, you cannot always translate your inner knowing into terms that make sense to those who haven't walked your path. And you don't have to.
With unwavering belief in your inner knowing,
Your Self-Care Strategist 💕
P.S. Beautiful soul, if you're reading this in the middle of a situation where you feel desperately misunderstood, please breathe deeply into your heart. I know how isolating it feels when people you care about don't understand your choices. I know how much you want them to see what you see, to support what you're doing, to validate your path. But here's what I need you to know: Their inability to understand says nothing about the validity of your truth. You are not crazy, wrong, or misguided simply because they can't comprehend your choices. Sometimes the people we love most are the least equipped to understand our growth because our evolution challenges their sense of stability. That's about them, not you. You can love them and trust yourself. You can wish they understood and still move forward. You can feel lonely and still be on the right path. Trust yourself, sweet one. Your inner knowing is wiser than their confusion.
"The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud."
Coco Chanel
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Call-to-Action: "Don’t wait to start your journey. Click below to join Ignite Your Inner You Community!!!
"Your Healthy MoJo~Self-Care Strategist: The Chakra Series."This essential collection, created by Dr. MoJo, guides you through a profound journey of self-discovery and energetic alignment, spanning from the grounding Earth Star and Root to the divine connection of the Crown Chakra.
Each of the eight energy centers (Earth Star, Root, Sacral, Solar Plexus, Heart, Throat, Third Eye, and Crown) is addressed with its own dedicated, transformative recording paired with an in-depth eBook to solidify your understanding and practice. Individually, each Chakra recording and eBook bundle is available for $25.00, offering a powerful, focused self-care strategy.
However, when you purchase two or more Chakra bundles, the price drops to just $20.00 each. Start your personalized healing journey today and feel the difference of a balanced, vibrant self.
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