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Self Care Newsletter Vol#36 WK#1 "Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without." Buddha
Published about 1 month ago • 5 min read
Rejuvenate & Thrive
Focus: Control Only What's Yours - The Path to Peace
"You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength."
Marcus Aurelius
Your Weekly
Intentional & Sustainable Self-Care Newsletter
Volume #36
Control Only What's Yours:
The Path to Peace
"When I discovered and began to implement the gift of controlling only what's mine, my life did a complete transformation—it was like someone turned on the lights, and suddenly I had cameras rolling on a new version of myself that gave me an inner freedom I'd never experienced before. I realized that my people-pleasing tendencies, constantly trying to live up to others' expectations, and not knowing what I actually wanted out of life were all ways I was allowing external circumstances to dominate me, preventing me from learning about and connecting with my inner self. I really didn't have a clear distinction between what was mine to control and what belonged to someone else. Because of this confusion, I used to exist in constant states of anxiety, overwhelm, and irritability because I was stuck in so many mental loops, trying to manage things that were never mine to begin with.
The truth is, we often spend 90% of our energy on the 10% we can't change. Understanding the difference between our Circle of Control and Circle of Concern changed everything for me. My Circle of Control includes my efforts, my attitude, my boundaries, my reactions, my self-care, and the words I use—these are 100% mine. My Circle of Concern includes other people's behavior, the economy, global events, the outcome of situations, and the past—things that exist outside my direct influence. Now I use a simple 30-second check filter: First, I ask myself, "Is this mine to control, or is it mine to manage?" If it's mine to control, that means I have direct action I can take, like setting a boundary. If it's mine to manage, that means the situation exists outside of me, and all I can control is my response to it, like managing my anxiety about a situation by taking deep breaths. Remember, your peace is not found in controlling the world around you; it is found in consistently controlling your world within you."
Be Blissful,
Dr. MoJo: Self-Care Strategist
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Welcome to this sacred space where we practice the profound art of letting go. This week, we're exploring one of life's most liberating lessons: the peace that comes from controlling only what's truly yours while releasing your grip on everything else. Your energy is precious, and it's time to invest it where it can truly make a difference.
Food For Thought:The Wisdom of Divine Detachment
There's a beautiful paradox in the spiritual journey: the more we try to control everything around us, the more chaotic our inner world becomes. But when we learn to focus our energy only on what's truly within our power—our thoughts, our responses, our choices, our actions—we discover a profound peace that no external circumstance can disturb.
This week, we honor your journey toward divine detachment—not detachment from love or care, but from the exhausting burden of trying to control outcomes beyond your influence. You're not just practicing self-care—you're reclaiming your peace, your energy, and your power by focusing on the one thing you can truly control: yourself.
The Feather
WISDOM FROM SPIRITUAL MOTHERS & FATHERS
Louise Hay:
"I am not responsible for other people's happiness. I am only responsible for my own happiness.
"Maya Angelou:
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.
"Iyanla Vanzant:
"You cannot experience peace until you let go of the need to control everything and everyone around you."
Closing: Heart-to-Heart
Dearest one, remember that learning to control only what's yours is not about becoming indifferent or uncaring—it's about becoming wisely compassionate and strategically peaceful. Just as a master gardener knows they can plant seeds, provide water and nutrients, but cannot force the flower to bloom, you are learning to tend your own garden while trusting the natural process of growth in all of life.
With deep respect for your journey toward divine detachment,
Your Self-Care Strategist 💕
P.S. Sweet soul, if you're reading this and feeling guilty about releasing control, please be gentle with your caring heart. Your desire to help, fix, and protect others comes from a place of love, and that love is beautiful. But love doesn't require you to exhaust yourself trying to control outcomes beyond your power. True love sometimes means stepping back and allowing others their own journey, their own lessons, their own growth. You can care deeply while holding lightly. You can love fully while controlling minimally. Start small—maybe just for today, focus on controlling your own responses and release one thing that's been weighing on your heart but isn't truly yours to carry. Your peace matters, and the world needs you centered and strong, not scattered and depleted.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
Reinhold Niebuhr
Join Ignite Your Inner YOU Community where it starts and ends with you BECOMING Intentionally YOU! It's time to start BETTING ON YOU!On Sunday, October 5th, 2025 @ 5pm to 6:30pm EST,THECrown Chakra!
Pricing Options:
Monthly: $20/month
Quarterly: $60/quarter
Annually: $240/year
Call-to-Action: "Don’t wait to start your journey. Click below to join Ignite Your Inner You Community!!!You will receive the month you joined and the prior month recording for (28 days). The prior recording are available for purchase.
Here is a list of the previous recorded Chakras: 0. Earth Star, 1. Root, 2. Sacral, 3. Solar Plexus, 4. the Heart, and 5. Throat, 6. Third-Eye, and 7. Crown, 8. Soul Star, 9.Stellar Gateway, 10. Universe Gateway, 11. Divine Gateway: Totaling 12
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